If there is one thing that I think most people would unite behind, it’s that change is a hard thing to accomplish. It’s one of those words that as soon as its spoken, we all sit back in our chairs, cross our arms and put that, “tell me more,” look on our faces. We are instantly skeptical.
Positive change can’t happen without the right kind of self-talk …
Change always seems to come with pain or risk. Pain when you get a phone call late into the evening to learn about the loss of a loved one, or risk when you take a leap of faith based on nothing more than your belief in your abilities. The risk when you walk into a meeting with a presentation on how to take on a new challenge or pain when you finally make it to the sauna after an hour of sweat on the gym floor.
I believe that change comes in waves. It’s like a force that hits you every couple of years and doesn’t stop until it has you lieing on the ground begging for mercy as it stands over you huffing and puffing with its bloody knuckles. But what we can’t forget is that it is we that get to decide when to get up and what direction we will go next.
Self-talk has become a highlight for me of late. That mean spirited shit that lives directly over the top of left ear sometimes leans over and begins to whisper his opinions. I decided about six months ago to stop listening because he was an agent of resistance and malice. His goals were not my goals, and if you house one of these demons somewhere on your person, I suggest an expulsion. This doesn’t mean that he will be gone forever, as I still hear his rumblings attempting to disrupt my new course, but if you acknowledge his voice and then tell him to shut the hell up, well you are a step ahead of the rest.
Positive change can’t happen without the right kind of self-talk, whether the change was chosen or thrust upon you, filled with pain or with risk. So, if you are looking to take a leap or recovering from an unforeseen curveball, the best advice you can receive is to start with you. It’s a little silly, but perhaps one of the best and most useful sketches ever performed on the set of Saturday Night Live was the Daily Affirmations with Stuart Smalley’s closing lines, “You’re good enough, you’re smart enough, and doggonnit people like you.”